If you’ve ever tried something new and had it fail, I know I’ll find you more interesting to talk to than the woman who has had everything work out.
That woman is never trying anything new. You have courage. You are amassing life experience. You are learning where the strength to get back up comes from. You’re headed somewhere good.
Failure creates new choice
You’ve reset your priorities. Unfortunately, there is no other way to learn all of this but its worth to you is huge. It’s when you’re down in a hole that you figure out what’s going to pull you back out. This is the time when you take a look around and decide what you’re not willing to give up.
The best part of failure is that it takes your journey on a path it could never have found without.
New doors might reveal themselves, relationships might become stronger, other relationships might dissolve because they are no longer consistent with your new goal, health and fitness related or not.
It’s easy to feel resentment. It’s natural. You wouldn’t be true to yourself if you denied its presence. But don’t feed it.
Don’t find reasons to excuse and explain it. Once it gets its grapple hooks into your skin, it does not like to let go. You will carry it around and it will infect your every waking moment.
We’ve all seen this, right? A woman who has chosen (because it is a choice) to clutch frustration closely and allow it to affect her reaction to everything. We watch it grow over the years like a cancer, and we see the price the disease makes her pay. We are uncomfortable just being around her and the negativity that keeps falling out of her mouth riding on the back of every word. Gee that got deep..
Where your creativity comes from
Being wrong leads to being creative. If you’re never willing to be wrong, then you’ll never be as innovative as when your imagination is prodded by failure. You’ll just repeat what you already know over and over. That gets stagnant fast. What’s that saying? “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results”
Children are not afraid of being wrong. They’ll give anything a shot. If it doesn’t work out, they move on to another solution immediately. Grownups become afraid of being wrong.
Some of this fear of failure also comes from the natural loss of flexibility and elasticity that comes with age. I think about this often, because I think seeing it very clearly helps you catch it in yourself and fight back.
Expect to fail some of the time
I believe a good teacher will notice the person who takes a chance at a solution much more favorably than someone who won’t. The point is not how it turns out. The point is how another brain assessed the problem and went about solving it.
The point is also that you are taking risk. If you are endlessly conservative, you cannot maximize your potential. I’m going to say that again, If you are endlessly conservative, you cannot maximize your potential.
You gain power by overcoming adversity
The more entirely you dismantle the situation you were in, the more entirely you can recreate a new one. Your experience will influence how you handle every situation and decision from now on.
Most people with a life that appears very positive can give you a list of the negative events that got them there. With maturity comes the patience you need to ride it out.
Pretty soon, it will just be something you remember from your past.
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